Essays

Pregnancy + Motherhood

A Guide to Not Killing Your Spouse Now That You’re Together All the Time, WUM, March 2020

Parenting an Only Through Self-Quarantine, What’s Up Moms, March 2020

What to NOT Say to a Mom of an Only Child, What’s Up Moms, February 2020

The Key to my Happy Marriage: Opposite Schedules, What’s Up Moms, February 2020

Baking Kept Me Sane During Those First Few Years of Motherhood, Epicurious, April 2019
…on the calm I found in the kitchen.

I Wish I’d Revealed My Pregnancy Earlier–Here’s Why, What’s Up Moms, March 2019
…on that awful veil of secrecy.

Nine Ways to Stop Helicoptering Your Kid, What’s up Moms, November 2018
…just leave her be. Not, really.

Teaching my daughter that in times of crisis, even small kindnesses matter, Washington Post, November 2018
…on making cookies for firefighters during the L.A. fires.

Dance Like Nobody’s Watching, Motherwell, September 2018
…on bravery.

I Was the One Who Made It, Modern Loss, August 2018
…on being born after two stillbirths.

The Mother’s Day I’ll Never Outdo, Land’s End Journal, May 2018
… on the best Mama’s Day I ever gave my own mother.

This is What Happened When I Googled “Morning-After Pill,” Motherwell, Jan 2017
…on the value of reproductive choice.

I Want a Second Baby. My Husband Doesn’t, New York Magazine, October 2016
how does a couple decide to have another baby?

I Had a Baby in Europe; Here’s What It Did to Me, New York Magazine, April 2016
on cultural clashes & modern motherhood.

That Was Us: An Expat’s Search for Home, The Millions, Dec. 2015
on life abroad coming to an end.

Don’t Tell Me It’ll All Be Worth it, The Manifest-Station, August 2015
…on what NOT to say to a pregnant woman.

Flirting with Disaster, in Marie Claire, May 2015
…on the dramatic story of how I met my husband. (Only in print.)

Sharing Photos of Your Kids on Social Media: Two Perspectives, Brain, Child, April 2015
…on why I don’t post photos of my child online (a debate, with Lauren Apfel).

When a Child Speaks a Language You Don’t, The Washington Post, March 2015
…on mothering a bilingual child.

Finding the American Dream in Europe, Medium, January 2015
…on living and mothering abroad.

I’m Pregnant. So Why Can’t I Tell You? Medium, October 2014
…who is a woman protecting when she conceals the first trimester of pregnancy?

The Disappearing First Year Brain, Child Magazine, September 2014
…in which I explore the complex first year of motherhood.

Becoming Three: The Myth of Instant Family The Toast & Motherwell, June 2014
…in which I debunk the myth that having a baby makes you a family.

The Illuminated The Morning News, March 2014
…in which I write about growing up in the shadow of two stillbirths.

The Secrets We Keep Mother Sugar, December 2012
…in which I tackle the early months of pregnancy.

The Language of Another World: A New Yorker in Munich,The Millions, March 2012
…in which I frequent a German pool and try to make sense of life in a foreign land.


For Rebel Girls Boundless

A Mother Abroad: The Role of die Mütter in Vienna, Austria

A Mother Abroad: Parenting, Au Pairs and Medical Care in Sydney, Australia

A Mother Abroad: Raising a Beloved Child in Bahrain

A Mother Abroad: The Tranquillo Life in Salta, Argentina


Selected Dance Writing

Dance Me to the End of Love, Longreads, January 2018
…in which injury thwarts a dance career.

On the Ground, The Nervous Breakdown, March 2014
…in which I share what life is like for a downtown modern dancer in NYC.

The Earth Moved, Dance Magazine, October 2007
…in which I swoon over Paul Taylor and the act of art-making.

Dancing with the Dead, Nextbook, July 2007
…in which I remember my grandmother, who was also a modern dancer.

On the Road with C.J. and the Demons, The New York Times, July 2006
…in which The West Wing tells me what to do with my life.


Books, Life, Culture, Etc.

The Secret, Forgotten Pleasure of Writing a Thank You Note, The Forward, Nov 2019
…on the year I spent penning notes and cooking religiously.

Your Book Might Not Sell, Electric Literature, Nov 2019
…on the reality of trying to publish your book.

“Little Grandpa” and The List, Longreads, May 2019
…on my family’s secret history in Hollywood.

I’m More Than Just a Mom and My Tiny Purse Proves it, What’s Up Moms, Feb 2019
…on my love affair with my minuscule purse.

Do You Tell Your Partner Before You Cut Your Hair? The Cut, October 2018
…on dressing however the fuck you want.

Wearing Lipstick is my Way of Resisting Los Angeles, The Cut, October 2018
…on the power of lipstick in a town full of leggings.

At Home on Carmine Street, Longreads, August 2018
…on being held up at gunpoint.

Is There Anybody Out There? Lenny Letter, May 2018
…on my inability to make decisions alone.

How Doing Nothing at 5 a.m. Gets Me Through the Day, Healthline, April 2018
…on the beauty of being alone in the morning.

How a Crazy Old French Woman Cured my Chronic Pain–and Healed my Soul, Lenny Letter, January 2018
…on the wild guru who made me rethink everything I thought I knew about the body.

A Creature of Comfort Builds a Home With a Constant Wanderer, Hunker, Aug 2017
…on marrying a nomad.

Dear Hillary, I Hope My Daughter Grows Up Like You, The Establishment, Nov 2016
#imwithher

To An Expat, America’s Culture of Gun Culture Seems Even More Terrifying, The Establishment, June 2016
…on the murder of a UCLA Professor.

In Dodge Hall with Oliver Sacks, Guernica, September 2015
…a remembrance of the late writer-neurologist.

The Parisian Yoga Witch Who Healed My Back, Racked, July 2015
…on the unlikely guru who got me out of pain and taught me something about style.

The Montreal Massacre Made Me a Feminist, Medium, December 2014
…how the mass murder of 14 women impacted me as a daughter, feminist, and mother.

Facebook Knock-Up, The Faster Times, October 2012 (republished on RoleReboot)
in which a weird interaction on Facebook makes me rethink the boundaries of our privacy.

The Story Doc, O: The Oprah Magazine, July 2012
…in which I write about Rita Charon, who founded the Narrative Medicine Program at Columbia Medical School.

The Signing Dilemma, The Faster Times, November 2011
…in which my idol, Joan Didion, signs my book and I feel weird about it.

My Chosen People, The Forward, April 2008
…in which I finally have a real Passover Seder.


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