…on the calm I found in the kitchen.
…on that awful veil of secrecy.
Nine Ways to Stop Helicoptering Your Kid, What’s up Moms, November 2018
…just leave her be. Not, really.
…on making cookies for firefighters during the L.A. fires.
Dance Like Nobody’s Watching, Motherwell, September 2018
…on bravery.
I Was the One Who Made It, Modern Loss, August 2018
…on being born after two stillbirths.
The Mother’s Day I’ll Never Outdo, Land’s End Journal, May 2018
…on the best Mama’s Day I ever gave my own mother.
…on the value of reproductive choice.
I Want a Second Baby. My Husband Doesn’t, New York Magazine, October 2016
how does a couple decide to have another baby?
on cultural clashes & modern motherhood.
on life abroad coming to an end.
Don’t Tell Me It’ll All Be Worth it, The Manifest-Station, August 2015
…on what NOT to say to a pregnant woman.
Flirting with Disaster, in Marie Claire, May 2015
…on the dramatic story of how I met my husband. (Only in print.)
…on why I don’t post photos of my child online (a debate, with Lauren Apfel).
When a Child Speaks a Language You Don’t, The Washington Post, March 2015
…on mothering a bilingual child.
…on living and mothering abroad.
…who is a woman protecting when she conceals the first trimester of pregnancy?
The Disappearing First Year Brain, Child Magazine, September 2014
…in which I explore the complex first year of motherhood.
Becoming Three: The Myth of Instant Family The Toast & Motherwell, June 2014
…in which I debunk the myth that having a baby makes you a family.
The Illuminated The Morning News, March 2014
…in which I write about growing up in the shadow of two stillbirths.
The Secrets We Keep Mother Sugar, December 2012
…in which I tackle the early months of pregnancy.
The Language of Another World: A New Yorker in Munich,The Millions, March 2012…in which I frequent a German pool and try to make sense of life in a foreign land.


A Mother Abroad: The Role of die Mütter in Vienna, Austria

A Mother Abroad: Parenting, Au Pairs and Medical Care in Sydney, Australia

A Mother Abroad: Raising a Beloved Child in Bahrain

A Mother Abroad: The Tranquillo Life in Salta, Argentina 



Dance Me to the End of Love, Longreads, January 2018
…in which injury thwarts a dance career.
On the Ground, The Nervous Breakdown, March 2014
…in which I share what life is like for a downtown modern dancer in NYC.
The Earth Moved, Dance Magazine, October 2007
…in which I swoon over Paul Taylor and the act of art-making.
Dancing with the Dead, Nextbook, July 2007
…in which I remember my grandmother, who was also a modern dancer.
On the Road with C.J. and the Demons, The New York Times, July 2006
…in which The West Wing tells me what to do with my life.


…on the year I spent penning notes and cooking religiously.
Your Book Might Not Sell, Electric Literature, Nov 2019
…on the reality of trying to publish your book.
…on my family’s secret history in Hollywood.
…on my love affair with my minuscule purse.
…on dressing however the fuck you want.
..on the power of lipstick in a town full of leggings.
At Home on Carmine Street, Longreads, August 2018
…on being held up at gunpoint. 
Is There Anybody Out There? Lenny Letter, May 2018
…on my inability to make decisions alone.
…on the beauty of being alone in the morning.
…on the wild guru who made me rethink everything I thought I knew about the body.
…on marrying a nomad.
...on the murder of a UCLA Professor.
In Dodge Hall with Oliver Sacks, Guernica, September 2015
…a remembrance of the late writer-neurologist.
…on the unlikely guru who got me out of pain and taught me something about style.
…how the mass murder of 14 women impacted me as a daughter, feminist, and mother.
Facebook Knock-Up, The Faster Times, October 2012 (republished on RoleReboot)
in which a weird interaction on Facebook makes me rethink the boundaries of our privacy.
The Story DocO: The Oprah Magazine, July 2012
…in which I write about Rita Charon, who founded the Narrative Medicine Program at Columbia Medical School.
The Signing Dilemma, The Faster Times, November 2011
…in which my idol, Joan Didion, signs my book and I feel weird about it.
My Chosen People, The Forward, April 2008
…in which I finally have a real Passover Seder.
I was formerly a contributing writer at HealthyWay. You can find all my posts by clicking here.
For dance essays, go to Dance Writing.

One thought on “Essays

  1. ariane jay

    just read “on the road with cj”. so great abs–i’m so proud of you. i will definitely be spending a lot of time today reading your essays, and NOT doing my work. So, thanks for that! Seriously though, I’m really proud of you. Hope you are enjoying your european adventure. we’re all living vicariously through you…–ari

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